Question: For years, I’ve been waiting for the right guy for me, Doc but it seems I always end up frustrated. I fear that like some of my female cousins, I would end up an old maid. Will I ever find my true love? - WN, 34 years old, female.
Answer: WN, there is nothing wrong with being an old maid. In fact, I think proponents of the Reproductive Health Bill should include this in their proposed bill: to encourage everyone to be “old maids” and to pay them a lump sum of money for every year they remain single. Some European countries are paying their citizens just for them to have babies (because they are running out of people! Too much family planning and population control in the past). So since many “experts” are getting alarmed by our booming population, we should do the reverse here in the Philippines.
Don’t pressure yourself, Tita. Some people are just meant to be alone. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life. You don’t have to worry about the stresses that come along with relationships: breaking up, expenses, staying up late anxious, cellphone load, etc.
But if you really want to find your true love, then do exactly the opposite of what you said. Your first statement was, “For years, I’ve been waiting for the right guy for me…” Maybe you should not wait, Tita. Maybe you should go out there and do the hunting yourself. Come on. It’s the 21st century. It’s high time for the girls to court the dudes and ask them out for a date instead of the traditional norm. I don’t see anything wrong with it. If you want it that bad, then there is no other way but to be aggressive about it.
So, go get them Tiger!